Have you ever wondered why we are so fascinated by bondage and what is behind the pleasure of being immobilized during sex?
Practically in all erotic fantasies there is present that of tying or being tied, that of being slaves or masters, that of doing or letting others do things on our body.
But what is it about bondage that makes it so attractive?
This is what we are going to try to elucidate throughout this article and, who knows, maybe you too will become a fan of this erotic practice that is gaining more followers and popularity every day.
What is bondage?
The term bondage means bondage or captivity. It is a consensual erotic practice in which one of the members of the couple, the master, immobilizes the body of the other, the slave.
Bondage is part of the acronym BDSM, but it can be carried out independently of the other practices that make up these acronyms.
The ties can be made both in a part of the body and in its entirety and for this, elements from the most basic to the most refined can be used: chains, handcuffs, ropes, ties or any other object that can serve as an immobilizing element.
Those who have practiced this fascinating form of eroticism say that when they find themselves immobilized under the body of their partner, their arousal shoots up to incredible limits. A sensation completely different from those already known is installed in their minds and in their bodies.
This accumulation of unknown sensations fills them with adrenaline and forces them to debate between the need to escape and the desire to remain defenseless while waiting for what the other intends to do with them.
Bondage involves a kind of pleasure and fear that, as it is practiced, increases the desire to repeat it over and over again. Of course, keep in mind that this practice must always go from less to more.
Bondage and the war of emotions
Although it is true that bondage has a marked playful aspect whose ultimate aim is to obtain pleasure and fun, it usually contains a component of danger and intrigue that goes beyond the barriers of the game to turn it into something much more sublime and shocking.
The couple who practice bondage must maintain impeccable communication that must be manifested before, during and after the session. In this way, their complicity gradually increases to unsuspected limits.
However, it is essential that for sex to provide pleasure in its maximum expression, certain indispensable premises must be met. And this is where the issue becomes more complex than it appears at first glance.
Physical and emotional immobilization
Although the ties are initially physical, the feeling of vulnerability that comes from feeling at the mercy of the other goes much further than mere physical immobility.
Bondage can bring true emotional catharsis, feelings that stir both in the tied person and in her tie. These emotions are reflected on their faces and in their actions. Submission and surrender, for example, give rise to the primitive urge to flee and at the same time to the feeling of frustration at not being able to do so.
SSC: sensible, safe and consensual
The acronyms SSC are those that define the totality of BDSM practices and, of course, they also have to be applied to bondage.
Sensible bondage
Good sense and responsibility must always be present in order to transform bondage into an exciting and enjoyable practice.
Whoever ties must ensure that whoever is tied is not suffering damage of any kind. He has to pay special attention to her response, differentiating between what are moans and what are groans or pleas to stop.
If there is something that you do not like during practice you have to say it loud and clear. It is very important to agree on a security keyword to stop the action immediately. The idea is that bondage is pleasant, this pleasure must never turn into suffering.
Responsibility must always be present, especially if you are practicing bondage with someone you just met. Our advice is: never do it with a stranger.
Safe bondage
Finally, keep in mind that physical security comes first. For example, have you ever wondered what can happen if you are tied to the head of the bed with metal handcuffs?
Well, it can happen that the friction causes serious damage to your skin and the pain becomes unbearable. This pain, which is well accepted in the world of masochism, does not have to be part of bondage.
Consensual bondage
It is essential that bondage is consensual before unleashing arousal and lower instincts. Since once started, it is not a good idea to tie your partner without their consent or allow them to tie you without having agreed the limits and the words to stop taking action.
Imagine that your girl or your boy takes out some handcuffs to tie you up without having told you before. The surprise can lead you to panic or nip the erotic moment in the bud. Or vice versa, if you are the one who wants to surprise your partner without having talked about it and that suddenly the doubt arises in her about what she is not doing well so that you have to appeal to that resource.
It is therefore essential to discuss the implications in depth before starting this practice. Sudden innovations can cause intense moments of frustration and rejection.
Our final advice is to go slowly and talk about it when both of you are excited. A subtle reference that elicits a response from your partner is ideal. For example: “I would love for you to tie my wrists and do whatever you want with me” can be a good starting point for testing reactions.
And for you, what other phrase can you think of to subtly introduce your partner to the practice of bondage?