At first glance it seems that Tantra and BDSM are part of two parallel worlds, right? Well, nothing is further from the truth, since tantric BDSM has been practiced for decades without us being aware of it.
And it is that at present, the issue of the confluence between both worlds begins to put itself in the spotlight more than ever.
Would you like to know why tantric BDSM is a practice that is not only conceptually not at odds, but can also lead you to the very paradise of erotic sensations?
Keep reading!
Tantric BDSM: the way to yourself
When we talk about Tantra in the Western world, we usually immediately associate it with tantric sex. That spiritual practice that consists of using sexual energy to know ourselves better and achieve union with the Divine.
Tantric sex is a practice that could well be in apparent contradiction to BDSM, where lovers find harmony and pleasure in erotic experiences based on slavery, domination, sadism and masochism.
How is the hardness of the whip related to the softness of the caresses of a tantric masseuse?
Don’t worry, you are not the only person asking yourself this question. The answer is simple, both are erotic methods that seek to achieve the long-awaited ecstasy in a polarized way and as such, they are branches that are part of the same tree with strong roots.
Tantra and BDSM: what do they have in common?
In order to understand how it is possible for tantric sex and BDSM to come together as tantric BDSM it is necessary to mention an essential aspect of these practices: the exchange of sexual energy through differences.
Let’s imagine a couple who wants to practice BDSM, but neither party wants to take on the submissive role. It would be impossible to carry it out, right? The same would happen with tantric sex if both members of the couple wanted to receive rather than provide spiritual energy.
In short, in both cases the energetic polarity within the couple is essential for a full, effective and liberating exchange to exist.
When does BDSM become Tantra?
BDSM becomes a tantric practice when both members of the couple exchange their vital energies to give and receive domination and submission. At that moment they begin to give life to a unique erotic experience that generates a circle of energy that flows from one to the other continuously. This is precisely tantric BDSM.
We have to remember that in BDSM, the submissive does not always have to be the one who receives, just as the dominant does not have to always be the one who gives. A submissive, for example, can adore the body of his master, lick and kiss her feet, caress the erotic parts of him at the command of the dominant and a long etcetera.
How to recognize your own essence in favor of tantric BDSM?
In both Tantra and BDSM it is essential to recognize what our own essence is. With essence we refer to that unique characteristic that distinguishes us and that allows us to offer our partner all our erotic potential.
Here are some tips to help you find your true sexual nature. Likewise, we invite you to share them with your partner so that between the two of you you can find the middle ground that leads you directly to the balance provided by tantric BDSM.
Tips so you can find yourself
● Does being submissive or dominant arouse you more? In this answer lies the crux of the essence of tantric BDSM. If you do not start by recognizing what attracts you the most, you will not be able to combine it with your partner in that perfect harmony so necessary for energy exchange.
● Do you like more to give pleasure, receive it, or both? In both BDSM and Tantra, there is one who receives and another who gives his gifts. Unlike in BDSM, which becomes a decisive way of seeing life, in Tantra these roles can be interchanged.
● Let go of any feelings of shame by acknowledging your own sexual nature. Feeling ashamed will greatly limit your ability to achieve spiritual ecstasy.
● Try to be fully aware of the present moment. That your thoughts do not wander will make the practice of BDSM become a true tantric experience. Tools such as spankings, orders, handcuffs and any erotic object can become a support to maintain consciousness in the here and now.
● That your erotic game is always safe and consensual so that it becomes a relaxed and worry-free practice. This will help you to always stay in the present rather than continually fear that some practice will slip out of hand.
● Keep your breathing calm and rhythmic to be in control of every situation at all times.
In short, tantric BDSM goes far beyond sex. With each act, both members of the couple keep their consciences active. The vehicles of pain and pleasure are transformed into a dynamic and fluid exchange of sexual energy.
And you, have you ever practiced any form of tantric BDSM?